Healing Trauma: How Childhood Trauma Shapes Your Life

By The Awakening Within

August 28, 2023

Introduction

In a previous blog, we discussed the profound impact trauma has on you from a psychological perspective.

Today, we’re going to explore how unresolved childhood trauma shapes your present life, especially your emotional well-being, behaviour patterns, and overall energy.

By the end of this blog, you’ll not only understand the importance of addressing childhood trauma, but also discover ways to start your trauma healing journey.

The Energetic Weight of Childhood Trauma

Childhood is the most formative period of your life. It’s a time when your mind is like a sponge, absorbing every experience, emotion, and interaction. But what happens when those experiences are less than nurturing or even traumatic? The effects can carry long into adulthood (as you’re likely experiencing), and impact your perception of yourself, interaction with others and ability to create the health and reality you want.

One of the most profound ways childhood trauma influences you is through the development of roles and behaviours. In an attempt to cope with or protect yourself from pain, you create coping mechanisms that may have served you as a child, but can be detrimental in your adult life.

The Impact of Unresolved Trauma on Your Roles and Behaviour

Here’s where childhood trauma comes into play. When trauma is experienced during these crucial formative years, it can deeply influence the roles you adopt.

For instance, a child who experienced neglect or emotional abandonment might internalize the role of being unworthy of love, leading to self-sabotaging behaviours in relationships. To protect yourself from that pain, you might have developed a pattern of self-reliance and emotional detachment as a child. While this might have been adaptive in childhood, resorting back to the same patterns to protect yourself doesn’t serve you as an adult.

Someone who grew up in a chaotic environment might develop a need to control every aspect of their life, impacting both personal and professional relationships.

These patterns can be like a time warp, causing you to respond to current situations with the emotional tools of your younger self.

Let me give you different examples which many of our clients come to us for healing so you get the picture in your mind.

Example #1: Discovering Your Partner is Cheating

The first example which clients come to us for trauma healing is from finding out their partner cheated on them in the past, which impacts their ability to love and be emotionally healthy. Although this isn’t childhood trauma, it is trauma from your younger self.

Many women picked up trauma in the past when they found out their partner, the “love of their life” at the time, was having an affair behind their back.

For this example, let’s say you’re currently 55 years old, and this situation happened to you in your first serious relationship at 23 years old after dating your partner for multiple years.

When you found out at 23 years old, the emotions you experienced would likely be incredible pain, betrayal, confusion, and intense anger.

As a 23 year old with less life experience, you felt these emotions for a long period of time and to protect yourself from the pain, you shut off your heart and didn’t trust men the same as you once did.

Now, as a 55 year old, if you never healed that trauma, as soon as you get into a relationship, you instinctively resort back to your 23 year old self and shut off your heart and trust, limiting your ability to receive love and enjoy the full experience.

After healing this trauma, you notice a profound shift in your heart and can feel a greater sense of love and appreciation for people around you, you trust easier, intuition sharpens, and more.

Example #2: Intense Anxiety, Stress or Mental Struggles

The second example many clients come to heal their trauma around is from constant anxiety, stress, fear, and uncertainty, which limits their ability to stay focused and motivated in their career or life.

They subconsciously notice the signs of a coming mental breakdown or burnout.

If you grew up in an environment where emotions were suppressed or you weren’t allowed to speak your truth, you might naturally internalise everything and struggle to express your emotions as an adult.

As a child, you grew to believe internalising your emotions was a normal way of expressing yourself to the people around you.

Instead of being truthful, you were taught to be a people-pleaser to not hurt their feelings.

If this trauma isn’t dealt with, it often leads to intense frustration, irritation, and mental breakdowns. In fact, studies have shown emotional suppression is likely to increase chances of earlier death from health challenges such as cancer, as your body responds from years of suppression by bringing it all to the surface (i.e. your physical body).

After healing this trauma, you notice a profound shift in your ability to express your truth and feel a huge energetic weight lift off your shoulders. After years of suppression, once it all releases, many clients feel lighter, happier, stress-free, clear, and incredibly focused.

Example #3: Injuries, Illnesses or Health Challenges

The third example clients come to us to heal is physical challenges such as body aches, pains, back or spine injuries, and more.

Let’s use persistent migraines as an example. If you see a doctor, medical tests reveal nothing, so they resort to painkillers and stress advice. But your headaches still persist.

However, when you explore the metaphysics causing your health challenges, you will find emotions have a significant impact. Your migraines may embody unresolved emotional pain, traced back to a childhood trauma you never fully confronted.

Unprocessed trauma energy can disrupt your body’s energy flow, which results in a physical health challenges such as a migraine (or in severe cases, cancer).

After getting to the root, of the health challenge and release all trauma and trapped emotions from your past, you will notice the illness or injury will gradually fade, not just alleviating symptoms, but also restoring your body’s natural energy balance.

Healing Your Unresolved Trauma

The good news is it’s never too late to heal from childhood trauma and break free from the old behavioural patterns.

Here are some steps to get you started on your trauma healing journey:

1. Acknowledge & Recognise:

Begin by acknowledging you have unresolved childhood trauma. Self-reflection is the first step towards healing. Take some quiet time to explore your past and identify any painful experiences or patterns you seem to repeat in your life.

2. Seek Support:

Healing from trauma can be a challenging journey, and you don’t have to go through it alone. There is strength in seeking help. Consider seeking support from someone who specializes in trauma and energy healing.

3. Be Patient:

Be patient with yourself throughout this process. Healing takes time, and it’s okay to have setbacks along the way as long as you’ve got the right guidance and support.

4. Mind-Body Techniques:

Explore mind-body techniques like meditation, yoga, or deep breathing exercises. These practices can help you reconnect with your body and release trapped emotions.

5. Reconnect with Your Inner Child:

Embrace and nurture the wounded child within you. Remember that this part of you holds the key to healing and transformation. Talk to this inner child with love and reassurance.

Conclusion

Healing from childhood trauma is a courageous and transformative journey. It’s an opportunity to free yourself from limitations of the past and create a more fulfilling future. Remember, you are not alone on this journey.

If you’re experiencing persistent health challenges, emotional imbalance or carrying the weight of unresolved trauma which is holding you back, I invite you to book a free discovery call with us.

During this call, we will create a safe space for you to share your experiences, challenges, and goals. We will take time to understand your unique situation, assess your needs, and uncover the root causes of your health concerns or lingering trauma.

From there, we will tailor a package suitable for your individual journey towards healing and empowerment.

Your healing journey begins with a single step. Take that step today and embrace the transformation that awaits you. Our team is here to walk beside you and provide support every step of the way.

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